{"id":5871,"date":"2025-07-28T11:26:07","date_gmt":"2025-07-28T10:26:07","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/?p=5871"},"modified":"2025-09-17T15:37:01","modified_gmt":"2025-09-17T14:37:01","slug":"talking-taboos-19-money","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/talking-taboos-19-money\/","title":{"rendered":"talking taboos 19 | money"},"content":{"rendered":"\t\t<div data-elementor-type=\"wp-post\" data-elementor-id=\"5871\" class=\"elementor elementor-5871\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-f388622 elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-content-top elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"f388622\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-no\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-100 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-1f1821e\" data-id=\"1f1821e\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-6e85829 elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"6e85829\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.19.0 - 07-02-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-image{text-align:center}.elementor-widget-image a{display:inline-block}.elementor-widget-image a img[src$=\".svg\"]{width:48px}.elementor-widget-image img{vertical-align:middle;display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<a href=\"https:\/\/www.meetup.com\/taboosymposium\/events\/288709816\/\" target=\"_blank\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2023\/09\/BANNER_TABOO_socialMedia_FB.jpg\" title=\"\" alt=\"\" loading=\"lazy\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<section class=\"elementor-section elementor-top-section elementor-element elementor-element-95e2aaa elementor-section-full_width elementor-section-height-default elementor-section-height-default\" data-id=\"95e2aaa\" data-element_type=\"section\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-container elementor-column-gap-default\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-2ac98be\" data-id=\"2ac98be\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-573cf1e elementor-widget elementor-widget-image\" data-id=\"573cf1e\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"image.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<img fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"800\" src=\"https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-1024x1024.png\" class=\"attachment-large size-large wp-image-6445\" alt=\"\" srcset=\"https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-1024x1024.png 1024w, https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-300x300.png 300w, https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-768x768.png 768w, https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-1536x1536.png 1536w, https:\/\/www.steflenk.com\/wordpress\/wp-content\/uploads\/2025\/09\/taboos19_money-2048x2048.png 2048w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/>\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-591f6ca elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"591f6ca\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.19.0 - 07-02-2024 *\/\n.elementor-heading-title{padding:0;margin:0;line-height:1}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title[class*=elementor-size-]>a{color:inherit;font-size:inherit;line-height:inherit}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-small{font-size:15px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-medium{font-size:19px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-large{font-size:29px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xl{font-size:39px}.elementor-widget-heading .elementor-heading-title.elementor-size-xxl{font-size:59px}<\/style><h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">the agenda<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-54bed6f elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"54bed6f\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.19.0 - 07-02-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-stacked .elementor-drop-cap{background-color:#69727d;color:#fff}.elementor-widget-text-editor.elementor-drop-cap-view-framed .elementor-drop-cap{color:#69727d;border:3px solid;background-color:transparent}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap{margin-top:8px}.elementor-widget-text-editor:not(.elementor-drop-cap-view-default) .elementor-drop-cap-letter{width:1em;height:1em}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap{float:left;text-align:center;line-height:1;font-size:50px}.elementor-widget-text-editor .elementor-drop-cap-letter{display:inline-block}<\/style>\t\t\t\t<p>It is said that people find it easier to talk about sex than they do about money. Money is complicated. Too little can make us feel worthless, too much can make us seem selfish, shallow or excessively consumerist. Sharing particulars about our financial lives can prompt jealousy or retribution by colleagues at work, demands for support by loved ones with a sense of entitlement, or prompt personal character evaluations based on how we choose to spend it.<\/p><p>The result? Specifics when discussing money typically remain off limits. This may protect us from the judgement of others, but it also results in a dangerous ignorance of the many different realities revolving around money. When we look to models\/examples of how we want to live with our available resources, we work from limited information or precedents tainted by the \u2018pimped up\/fake news\u2019 domain of social media.<\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-dcade98 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"dcade98\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<style>\/*! elementor - v3.19.0 - 07-02-2024 *\/\n.elementor-widget-divider{--divider-border-style:none;--divider-border-width:1px;--divider-color:#0c0d0e;--divider-icon-size:20px;--divider-element-spacing:10px;--divider-pattern-height:24px;--divider-pattern-size:20px;--divider-pattern-url:none;--divider-pattern-repeat:repeat-x}.elementor-widget-divider .elementor-divider{display:flex}.elementor-widget-divider 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Or are you registered for an event and cannot find us?\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/signal.group\/#CjQKIP2eaAO_R7NbaMNSlKiB-WXJs2Ei J4BtT40UEbI6oYUEhAsb91jluqG9yypYqCsw2Y1\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Drop a message in our signal group here and we&#8217;ll help you out! <\/a><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-column elementor-col-50 elementor-top-column elementor-element elementor-element-63a2264\" data-id=\"63a2264\" data-element_type=\"column\">\n\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-wrap elementor-element-populated\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-bd02ac2 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"bd02ac2\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div>\n<p><b>Many thanks to the 26 participants who joined us. Check out the survey results and our talking points for the evening<a href=\"https:\/\/miro.com\/app\/board\/uXjVJTiHY9o=\/?share_link_id=333172259685\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">&nbsp;here<\/a>.<\/b><\/p>\n<\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-200ac99 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"200ac99\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-1055b47 elementor-widget elementor-widget-heading\" data-id=\"1055b47\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"heading.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t<h2 class=\"elementor-heading-title elementor-size-default\">NEW THIS TIME AROUND: an info gathering survey!<\/h2>\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-e2973cb elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"e2973cb\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<div>I\u2019ve been pondering for a while how attendees can put their thoughts on the table during taboo conversations in a way that doesn\u2019t feel invasive or vulnerable, and (special thanks to Igor for the inspiration!) have happened upon a possible solution. This time around there\u2019s going to be tiny optional mentimeter survey to start our open talk. We\u2019ll take a look at the results together to see where we overlap and differ in our dealings with money. <b>Here&#8217;s a preview of the survey questions:<\/b><\/div><div><b>\u00a0<\/b><\/div>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-86eb839 elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"86eb839\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>1. EXTERNAL FACTORS: How much do the following factors play in yo<\/strong><b>ur financial dealings?<\/b><\/p><ul><li>dependants (partner, children, aging parents)<\/li><li>future aspirations (continuing studies, funding business ideas, creative enterprises, etc.)<\/li><li>lifestyle (owning real estate, purchasing yacht, retaining a harem, etc.)<\/li><li>anxiety about the apocalypse (preppin&#8217; is the new normal!)<br \/><br \/><\/li><\/ul><p><b>2. SELF-WORTH\/ EXISTENTIAL BASICS<\/b><\/p><ul><li>My basic existence has at some point been threatened due to lack of money (ie. long-term unemployment \/ lack of family support)<\/li><li>My sense of self worth has changed based on changing income<\/li><li>\u00a0<\/li><\/ul><p><b>3. STRUGGLING AND SAVING: how much money do you try to save a month?<\/b><\/p><ul><li>0 (don&#8217;t have the option)<\/li><li>0 (don&#8217;t feel the need)<\/li><li>50-100\u20ac<\/li><li>100-500\u20ac<\/li><li>500\u20ac -1000\u20ac<\/li><li>1000\u20ac+<br \/><br \/><\/li><\/ul><p><b>4. LIFESTYLE: Beyond the basics, what do you use your money for? (ie: subscriptions, entertainment, clothing\/vanity, travel)(one word answers ideal here)<\/b><\/p><p><b>5. INCOME: How much do you earn per month? (freelancers can average across a 12 month period)<\/b><\/p><ul><li>have no estimate but it&#8217;s not enough<\/li><li>0-1000\u20ac\/month<\/li><li>1000\u20ac-2000\u20ac\/month<\/li><li>2000\u20ac-3000\u20ac\/month<\/li><li>3000\u20ac+\/month<\/li><li>I live off investments\/family support\/inheritance etc.<br \/>have no estimate but it&#8217;s a lot<\/li><\/ul>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-5aba011 elementor-widget-divider--view-line elementor-widget elementor-widget-divider\" data-id=\"5aba011\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"divider.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-divider\">\n\t\t\t<span class=\"elementor-divider-separator\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/span>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-element elementor-element-ca31039 elementor-widget__width-initial elementor-widget elementor-widget-text-editor\" data-id=\"ca31039\" data-element_type=\"widget\" data-widget_type=\"text-editor.default\">\n\t\t\t\t<div class=\"elementor-widget-container\">\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t<p><strong>This month we&#8217;ll be joining forces with <i>The Discussion Experiment<\/i>.<\/strong> <i>The Discussion Experiment <\/i>is a series of events where a structured exchange ensures that all participants are given equal footing in a public conversation setting. The group gathers perspectives on a given topic and collectively examines where they agree and disagree. Core ideas are posted to a mind map to create a visual reference point for subsequent discussion. This format of discourse is a work-in-progress by Igor Don; each event he has held over the past 3 years has revealed new insights on how to improve his method and make group interactions more fruitful. More info\u00a0<a href=\"https:\/\/diskussions-experiment.de\/en\/home\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">here<\/a>.<\/p><p><b><i>Since we are two different event organisers with our own audiences and formats, there will be more of us and moderating may involve limiting longer contributions. That said, initial structured conversation will be followed by the usual open discussion familiar to taboo regulars. Thanks for taking part in our experiment!<\/i><\/b><\/p>\t\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t<\/section>\n\t\t\t\t<\/div>\n\t\t","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>the agenda It is said that people find it easier to talk about sex than they do about money. Money is complicated. Too little can make us feel worthless, too much can make us seem selfish, shallow or excessively consumerist. 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